Headscarfs and Sushi

Please be forewarned that these are merely my opinions and that of my friends too. Do not judge us and we will not do the same to you.

The discussion started off with F mentioning how her friend wears a headscarf but sleeps over at her boyfriend's house and most probably indulges in some...stuff. She stated how she and her other friends talked about how the fact that the girl covers herself and prays, makes up for her extracuricular activities. They all believe that when one makes that pledge to fully cover up as a Muslimah, one should take extra precaution in maintaining one's purity, physically at least because other people can't see what you think.

Honestly, I used to think that way too. Like how I find women or girls who wear Hijabs and drink alcohol simultaneously a bit dodgy. And how good girls who practise their religion save for covering their aurat are deemed as having a one way ticket to hell.

Nowdays, I don't think it's fair for me to judge people that way. I can't compartmentalise Muslims according to my OWN beliefs. After all, the fact that there are a myriad of interpretations of the Quran and Sunnah all over the world, proves that there is no absolute one way of viewing some things in Islam. Whatever happens in the end is still between you and God. He still decides whether your intentions are pure of heart. He still decides how much good or bad you've done. I don't think I have any right to say 'OMG, how can she kiss her boyfriend when she wears a headscarf! She shouldn't even HOLD HANDS!'

My other friend, L, mentioned what Queen Rania of Jordan said on Oprah. She doesn't wear a headscarf and is gorgeous as hell but she admitted on the show that she does indeed pray 5 times a day, everyday. She said that the Hijab is not a measure of one's faith. Therefore, just because one doesn't wear one, does not mean one does not observe religion's other rules.

Of course, we do STILL have to cover our aurat. I'm not championing being over-liberal and discarding that rule straight. What I'm saying is, it ISN'T FAIR to JUDGE people who don't cover their aurat and proclaim that they're worse than the people judging them. And with that, I'll leave my prejudices at the door the next time I discuss stuff like this.

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@ Thursday, January 22, 2009 9:43 AM

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