Teasing to please
Maintaining friendships shouldn't have to be this hard.
Those far away understand the distance, the changes, the new responsibilities. I don't see them complaining. Even if they find some things hard to digest, they speak it out. We have talks and we work things out. Then once everythings settled, the problm goes out the window and everything is all peachy again. We know we don't talk as often. We know other people have settled into our new lives. But we NEVER hold grudges on that. My best guy friend spends so much time with his gf and is super busy with studies that its so hard to pin him down for a nice long chat. We used to go out a couple of times a week and now I only talk to him once in 2 mnths. Online. Yet still, when we do, we never act all insulted at the lack of communication, we spill our guts out just like we used to, just that we still miss each other loads. Its the same with my besties in UK. Its been almost a year since Ive seen Izzy, I don't hear her complaining about me neglecting her. She actually understands and she still loves me all the same. :D
Even SOME much nearer understand. They face the same things. They see it with their own eyes. They don't make things more complicated than they should be. Its normal to grow apart. Its normal to make new friends. Its normal to spend time with different people on different days. If u feel like you're missing out, do something about it. Don't poke and jab insults while doing nothing on your part. Like I said, it shouldn't be this hard. It shouldn't be made into something huge when it clearly isn't much.
Lesson of the day: If you love your friends purely, you should understand the reasons for their actions. If you have a problem, you talk things out and make things work. If you truly love them as much as you say you do, then you know that it is unconditional and therefore not something that requires calculations and such. Before you take it out on them for negligence, make sure you see things their way first coz u might be missing the bigger picture. :)
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